The ideal skinny body does not exist. But what
does exist are eating disorders, addictions, cosmetic surgeries, and the desire
for perfect beauty. The need for perfectionism can be caused by a lack of
self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, insecurities, and too many rejections. It
makes anyone feel that if they change their appearance that they might attract
someone. However, it is devasting and painful to go through so many changes in
the pursuit of dating someone.
A woman with a lack of self-esteem, lack of
self-confidence, and a lack of body positivity, and a lack of self-love will
want to pursue the idea of having the ideal body. She might want to lose too
much weight, exercise too much, and update her clothes to attract that person.
Yet, with all those changes she may resort to cosmetic surgery because of body
dissatisfaction. If she is a teenager, it hurts the family more to see this
young person change her appearance. Also, too much influence from social media
will make anyone feel bad about themselves.
Their mental health suffers because of the
strong yearning of having the ideal skinny body. Teenagers must realize that
their bodies will continue changing as they get older. They must realize that
what their boyfriend or girlfriend says might not always be good advice when it
comes to their appearance. When a teenager is relying on their appearances to
attract someone, their self-esteem and their self-confidence get reduced. It is
crucial to let them know that looks are not everything in attracting someone.
He or she should know their real self and
implement self-love at an early age. In addition, having body positivity is a
valuable resource for creating strong self-esteem and self-confidence for the
younger generations. Teenagers and women should not look for the ideal skinny
body instead they should embrace the body that they have. As well as leaving
prejudices, bad comments, and negativity out the door when it comes to one’s
appearance. Comparisons of one’s body must end to feel good about being a
teenager or a woman.
Often being influenced by a friend, a family
member, or a boyfriend can make her be influenced easily. This influence makes
her feel, act, think, and look at themselves differently. When their boyfriend
has low self-esteem and no self-confidence, he might mirror that
aspect into his girlfriend making her feel shame. Similarly, when her female
friend tells her that she looks overweight and not skinny; She needs to realize
that is not a friend. Teenagers and women must let go of unrealistic views
about how their bodies should look.
It is not surprising that more women seek to
have the ideal skinny body. Most women may deny that they once did drastic
changes to fulfill their boyfriend or girlfriend's perception of their ideal
skinny body. Yet, they do not feel happiness towards themselves. Therefore, eliminate those unrealistic judgments and take care of your body. Practice
realistically seeing your body without harsh criticism of how it looks.
A good friend or your significant partner will
love you no matter if you are overweight or slim. He or she will not make you
compare yourself to other women that they admire. Acknowledge the fact that
everyone sees the female anatomy from different perspectives. Be receptive to
how people make you feel when they speak negatively about your body. Understand
that there will be boyfriends and girlfriends who evaluate your body in a
pessimistic manner.
Although not every boyfriend or girlfriend would
do this, try to view your body in a good way. Nourish your body with food,
exercise, and with care. If the ideal body did exist, every woman and man would
look the same. There would not be a variation in body types that makes everyone
unique. Remember that you will attract the appropriate person for you to love
without body shaming you.
The ideal skinny body is a fantasy created in
the mind. It does not characterize a woman's emotions and attitude.
Furthermore, every woman must feel satisfied with herself. Removing the dream
of the ideal skinny body will make any woman feel better about herself. Here
are websites on this topic.
Social Media, Thin-Ideal, Body Dissatisfaction and Disordered Eating Attitudes-An Exploratory Analysis:
Social Media, Thin-Ideal, Body Dissatisfaction, and Disordered Eating Attitudes: An Exploratory Analysis - PMC (nih.gov)
Why Our Culture is Obsessed with Thinness-Next Avenue:
Why Our Culture Is Obsessed With Thinness – Next Avenue
The Right Weight to Be Attractive-Psychology Today:
The Right Weight to Be Attractive | Psychology Today
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