How to Avoid Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a combination of emotional and psychological abuse where the person changes the other person. The other person is changed through words and through actions that distort their truth. A person that does gaslight wants to control and manipulate a person negatively. The person loses their identity, self-worth, and their perception of themselves. Also, he or she will begin to question themselves, question events, and question their memory.

Over time, a person who was gaslighted begins to be severely depressed, emotionally traumatized, or tormented. The person constantly apologizes to the gaslighter. A person who does the gaslighting will lie, deny, and have their version of the arguments. He or she also extorts the other person. Additionally, he or she might put family and friends against the other person. 

There are many warning signs of being gaslighted. He or she calls you crazy and tells you that you are imagining the whole situation. You will begin to question yourself, feel insecure, and feel anxious all the time. You begin to blame yourself, feel less attractive, and make excuses for your partner. You also believe everything from your partner including their lies. 

A person who gaslights never apologizes. He or she has no compassion for their partner. To avoid this from happening to you, pay attention to your partner's behavior in person and online behavior. If you do notice any differences in their words and actions, proceed with caution. Do not let the gaslighter change your beliefs, morals, and your essence. 

Leave the gaslighter if he or she will not change. Seek professional help to find yourself. Do meditation techniques to find your self-worth. Practice self-love meditation, mindfulness, and love and kindness meditation. Incorporate self-care, make a vision board, write your emotions, and work on your hobbies gradually. 

Do things that made you feel joyful. Contact the Domestic Violence Hotline for support. Spend time alone to find your identity. As well as finding support with friends and family. Below are links for more ways to end gaslighting in your relationship. 

Domestic Violence Hotline:

What to Expect When You Contact Us - The Hotline

Mindfulness-A Skill You Can Use to Stop Gaslighting-Join One Love.org: 

Mindfulness: A Skill You Can Use to Stop Gaslighting (joinonelove.org)

How to Deal with Gaslighting in 6 Easy Steps-Marriage:

How to Deal with Gaslighting in 6 Easy Steps | Marriage.com

5 Go-To Tactics of Gaslighters and How to Resist Them-Psychology Today:

5 Go-To Tactics of Gaslighters, and How to Resist Them | Psychology Today

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