How to Manage Emotional Loneliness?

Emotional loneliness can occur anytime and anywhere without fully understanding why it happens. It is a constant struggle with various emotions that can make you stay quiet and continue to be in silence with yourself. Often not finding someone to speak about your emotions can make you feel more loneliness. Although most men can relate to emotional loneliness, it is often not spoken about because of fear. This fear can prevent you from speaking and expressing yourself.

Another reason it is tough to express one's emotions is because of rejection and not wanting to tell your partner. Staying silent feels like the only solution because your partner might be defensive, complain, or make you feel discontent. Furthermore, you do not want to build conflict in your marriage. Yet, the more silent you are in the relationship, the more emotional loneliness gets worse. Moreover, emotional loneliness can also be felt when you are intimate with your partner.

Often the excitement, the connection, and the desire to be with your partner can be overwhelming when there is emotional loneliness. It can be due to work stress, financial stress, family stress, and other negative experiences that make it difficult to be intimate with your partner. Additionally, having a negative experience in the past, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, and having a low self-body image of oneself are other reasons for feeling emotional loneliness during intimacy. However, emotional loneliness can be treated with professional therapy and can help improve your intimacy with your partner. It can improve your communication and other aspects in the relationship.

As a man it is easier to show your bravery, your strength, and to be a protector for your partner. However, this strength and not expressing your sadness can make it tough to relate to your emotions. You might feel anger, sadness, or other negative emotions and withhold them. Hiding your negative emotions and not expressing them can make you feel more loneliness. Furthermore, by doing this you do not want to bother your partner with worries. 

Nonetheless, your partner might sense something is wrong and might not say anything. As a woman, it can be confusing to understand a man that is feeling emotional loneliness. Sometimes giving too much emotional space can put a strain on the relationship. Other times asking too many questions can make your partner feel distant, unapproachable, and more silent. Emotional loneliness can occur because of a traumatic experience which makes it difficult to express one's feelings.

But emotional loneliness can be due to cultural expectations and not wanting to appear vulnerable in front of your partner. Other reasons can be low self-confidence and trying to be a perfectionist. As well as being in denial of one's emotions and pretending everything is fine. Emotional loneliness is often felt more with one partner within the marriage. It is necessary to pay attention to your partner's comments and to communicate well with them. 

Yet, feeling loneliness can sometimes make you form unhealthy habits to help you get distracted and not think about what is worrying you. Although being married and being fully committed to your partner and children, emotional loneliness can build up because of looking for other forms of an emotional connection. This search for emotional connection can be due to lack of male friendships, being too busy at work, taking care of family priorities, and not having time for hobbies. Nonetheless, there are ways to manage your emotional loneliness such as practicing self-care for your mental and physical wellness. As well as reducing your stress and getting professional help for depression, anxieties, and other issues.

Additionally, find time to connect with male friends who are comfortable in expressing emotions. Make sure these male friends do not make jokes when expressing one's emotions. Do not feel ashamed or afraid to express your emotions verbally to your male friends. Find time to enjoy your hobbies and connecting socially with your male friends. Seek treatment for substance abuse and other addictions especially if these addictions began with emotional loneliness.

Practice self-care, gratitude, and do acts of kindness. Accept your emotions and accept what you are feeling in the present. Keep in mind that this loneliness is not permanent. Speak to your partner about your emotional loneliness and consult with a therapist for more ways to manage it. Here are resources for managing your emotional loneliness.

 

Tips to Manage Loneliness-Mind:

Tips to Manage Loneliness-Mind

Male Loneliness: Why Men Are Susceptible to Severe Loneliness:

Male Loneliness: Why Men Are Susceptible to Severe Loneliness

15 Things to Do if You're Feeling Lonely-Mental Health Foundation:

15 Things to Do if You're Feeling Lonely-Mental Health Foundation 

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