How to Trust in a New Relationship?

Trust is a major issue when you are in a relationship with someone. After being cheated on for so many times or even cheated once might make a person be distrustful in their next relationship. Pistanthrophobia is a term used for someone is afraid and does not trust their current boyfriend or girlfriend. This fear of not trusting your current partner causes you to worry, doubt, and question your partner’s actions. Not only will you question your partner’s actions, but you will also question if he or she is telling you the truth with their words.

Consequently, this might make you look insecure, immature, or lack relationship skills. Yet, your partner will not understand your jealousy and anxiety caused from past relationships. Often the person that was betrayed in the past will go to extremes by checking on their partner’s cell phones, e-mails, and paper mail correspondence. Dealing with Pistanthrobia is not easy and takes time to overcome it. Therefore, therapy from a therapist or a psychologist will help immensely to feel trust and be open with one’s feelings in a relationship.

To trust your new partner, you must let go of your past which takes time to do. It takes time because of the brain’s memory of how it felt when it was with the old partner. Sometimes, a person will find another person that is like their ex which will bring old memories. Keep in mind that your new partner might have similar qualities like your ex, but has different feelings, different attitudes, and different personalities. Be honest with yourself, forgive, and have an open mind with your new relationship

Take care of yourself and let go of negative thoughts that come to your mind. Practice mindfulness, meditation, or your favorite hobbies to help you relax. Also, speak to your new partner and tell them about your experience. This will help you and your new partner to understand your concerns, worries, and doubts with your new relationship. Here are links with more information about pistanthrobia. 

How to Trust Someone Again After Cheating:

https://hernorm.com/how-to-trust-someone-again-after-cheating/

Pistanthrophobia:

https://themindfool.com/pistanthrophobia/

What is Pistanthrophobia: 

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/pistanthrophobia

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