Benching (Unhealthy Relationship)

 

When you are dating someone be careful about benching. Benching is when someone puts you as a second option in their dating. Being a backup choice is not a healthy relationship. He or she might be interested in you but not willing to commit to you. It is hurtful to know that you are not part of his or her life and you are there just for entertainment. 

Benching has increased since the pandemic of Covid-19 because more people started using dating applications. It is interesting to browse through potential dating partners on dating websites, but benching has been common these days. Yet, make sure you are knowledgeable about this dating trend. When a person does benching, he or she makes everything feel marvelous with false pledges, false compliments, and a lot of mental mazes. What are mental mazes? 

The mental mazes of a bencher will have you confused, worried, and not knowing what will occur next in their dating game. You might be waiting for days or weeks without hearing from him or her. Ultimately, you will feel lonely, concerned, and wondering if you did anything wrong. Also, you might feel stuck in a relationship while he or she is dating several people at once. You might feel foolish for wanting to be in a relationship with this person. 

Overall the one that gets hurt is the one that falls for the person who does the benching. You might have hopes that he or she might change and run toward you for a long-term relationship. Yet, the anxiety, heartache, and tension in the benching relationship are not for anyone. To be in a mental maze in someone's mind that does the benching is damaging and destroys a person's self-worth. It is wise to leave the person who does the benching. 

Benching does emotional harm. Every so often the person that is benched is in a one-sided relationship with someone who can not devote time to them. It is the most painful experience, especially when he or she disappears and returns without having any intentions. Safeguard your heart, mind, and body if you come across a person who does benching. Here are websites about benching and what to do.  

What is Benching in Dating and How to Avoid It:

https://j4l.com/blog/relationship-tips/what-is-benching-in-dating-and-how-to-avoid-it

Benching-Dating Signs:

https://www.bonobology.com/benching-dating-signs/

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