Jealousy (Domestic Violence Awareness and Prevention)

Jealousy occurs frequently in the beginning of a relationship and during the middle stages of a committed relationship. It is common to see someone going through an hour or more of jealousy through an argument or through comments. However, jealousy is a bad sign when it transpires in the relationship and before the relationship begins. A partner might stay silent when his or her partner does a jealous tantrum in front of everyone. It is embarrassing to see a couple go through that in public, in their partner’s family gathering, or with their friends’ parties.

It is uncomfortable but not because of what people might say behind your back. Jealousy is a possessive and a manipulative action to make their partner afraid of them. When it is done in public, with friends, or with family members, it is a wake-up call for the partner to realize what is going wrong with their relationship. The partner that does the jealousy does not realize what he or she is doing. Going through a moment of jealousy in a relationship is unhealthy.

Other times jealousy outbursts are done on purpose where their partner want to know if he or she still loves them. This cycle of envy is continuous, and one partner is usually vulnerable when this occurs in dating and in marriages. Often it is a case of wanting attention and a fear of being abandoned by their partner. The issue of abandonment might arise from their past relationship with their parents and other times when a previous boyfriend or girlfriend left them for someone else. Yet, a person who is jealous about their partner has insecurities which he or she may not admit it.

Other times their partner might be obsessed with them which makes them be confused and make them believe that it is love. When jealousy enters in the relationship, the relationship becomes unstable. Although there might be other reasons for a person to be jealous such as finances, education, or social status; Jealousy is the worst factor a partner can do to damage their relationship in dating or in a marriage. Sometimes there is no excuse for dealing with someone’s jealousy. It must be tackled before the jealous person becomes abusive and violent.

Occasionally a person might be jealous because of what other people tell them about their partner. There might be a feeling of mistrust when there is no need to be suspicious of their partner. This might be due to their self-doubt, lack of trust, and their past experiences from their boyfriend or girlfriend. Nevertheless, being with a jealous partner might lead to domestic violence and abuse because it is a reaction to make them feel in control. Below is a list of signs that your partner is jealous in your relationship.

1. A jealous person might continue calling their partner every minute of the day to know where they are at, what they are doing, who they are with, and what time they will come home, what time they will see them.
2. He or she might look on their cell phones to see who they have been speaking to or text messaging to.
3. He or she might want their passwords, financial information, and other personal information to know what their partner is doing online.
4. Also, a jealous person might want to check their social media accounts and may do a second profile under a fictious name to see what they are doing in social media.
5. A jealous person might get paranoid when they do not hear from their partner through the cell phone or through a text message.
6. Other times a jealous person might visit their partner at work and make a tantrum in front of everyone.
7. A jealous person might follow them while their partner is driving somewhere.
8. He or she might see the items that their partner buys online and might see what is inside their shopping bags.
9. He or she might look inside their purse, inspect their clothing pockets, and smell their clothes.
10. A jealous person might do anything to get their partner’s attention even insulting people they speak to. 

Furthermore, envy creates conflict in a relationship due to emotional infidelity from the past or intimate infidelity from their past relationships. If you are partner is jealous of you all the time, you must revaluate your relationship. Look for professional help if you want to stay with your partner. Also, if your partner is jealous, it has nothing to do with your personality, behavior, or what you do as a profession. Here is more information about how to manage a jealous partner. 

What's Really Behind Jealousy, and What to do about it-Psychology Today:

What's Really Behind Jealousy, and What to Do About It | Psychology Today

How to Deal with a Jealous Partner-Healthy Place:

How to Deal with a Jealous Partner | HealthyPlace

How to Deal with Jealousy and Insecurity in a Relationship-Very Well Mind:

How to Deal With Jealousy and Insecurity in a Relationship (verywellmind.com)

Unhealthy Relationship Behaviors Series-Jealousy-One Love Foundation-Join One Love:

Unhealthy Relationship Behaviors Series: Jealousy - One Love Foundation (joinonelove.org)

 

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