Gaslighting is a
combination of emotional and psychological abuse where the person changes the
other person. The other person is changed through words and through actions
that distort their truth. A person that does gaslight wants to control and
manipulate a person negatively. The person loses their identity, self-worth,
and their perception of themselves. Also, he or she will begin to question
themselves, question events, and question their memory.
Over time, a person who
was gaslighted begins to be severely depressed, emotionally traumatized, or
tormented. The person constantly apologizes to the gaslighter. A person who
does the gaslighting will lie, deny, and have their version of the arguments.
He or she also extorts the other person. Additionally, he or she might put
family and friends against the other person.
There are many warning
signs of being gaslighted. He or she calls you crazy and tells you that you are
imagining the whole situation. You will begin to question yourself, feel
insecure, and feel anxious all the time. You begin to blame yourself, feel less
attractive, and make excuses for your partner. You also believe everything from
your partner including their lies.
A person who gaslights
never apologizes. He or she has no compassion for their partner. To avoid this
from happening to you, pay attention to your partner's behavior in person and
online behavior. If you do notice any differences in their words and actions,
proceed with caution. Do not let the gaslighter change your beliefs, morals,
and your essence.
Leave the gaslighter if
he or she will not change. Seek professional help to find yourself. Do
meditation techniques to find your self-worth. Practice self-love meditation,
mindfulness, and love and kindness meditation. Incorporate self-care, make a
vision board, write your emotions, and work on your hobbies gradually.
Do things that made you
feel joyful. Contact the Domestic Violence Hotline for support. Spend time
alone to find your identity. As well as finding support with friends and family.
Below are links for more ways to end gaslighting in your relationship.
Domestic Violence Hotline:
What to Expect When You Contact Us - The Hotline
Mindfulness-A Skill You Can Use to Stop Gaslighting-Join One Love.org:
Mindfulness: A Skill You Can Use to Stop Gaslighting (joinonelove.org)
How to Deal with Gaslighting in 6 Easy Steps-Marriage:
How to Deal with Gaslighting in 6 Easy Steps | Marriage.com
5 Go-To Tactics of Gaslighters and How to Resist Them-Psychology Today:
5 Go-To Tactics of Gaslighters, and How to Resist Them | Psychology Today
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This was a very eye opening read, Melissa. Thank you so much for sharing it. x Penny / whatdidshetype.com
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing this information. Gaslighting gets thrown around a lot recently, and it's not always used correctly so it's good to try to educate on what exactly this term means.
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