How to do Mindful Touching?

Mindful touching helps couples to spend time together and it increases an emotional bond. Touching your partner can help you practice self-compassion, self-confidence, self-assurance, and self-acceptance. It also communicates trust, love, respect, and helps build a stronger relationship with your partner. As well as giving a boost of satisfaction in your relationship and relaxation for both partners. Yet, Mindful touching is about being aware of how you touch your partner and how you connect with your partner’s emotions.

It permits you to slow down, take your time, and to observe your partner. Observe your partner’s reactions and how your partner responds to you in a nonverbal manner. Sit in front of your partner and practice mindful touching before going to work or before going to sleep. Mindful touching can be done by closing your eyes while your partner holds your hand. Breathing slowly and relaxing for five minutes.

Ask permission from your partner before doing mindful touching. Create a comfortable environment before practicing mindful touching. Add cushions, pillows, and enough lighting to the room. Use pillows to support your spines. Also, include a gratitude journal to write in it after practicing mindful touching.

Take turns practicing mindful touching. Touch your partner’s face while your partner has their eyes closed. Observe your partner’s face, wrinkles, birthmarks, and other imperfections. Then, touch your partner’s hair, earrings, and accessories on their hands. Last, touch your partner’s feet.

End the mindful touching with a hug. While you practice mindful touching, focus on your breathing and your partner’s breathing. Mindful touching can be done in silence or with soft instrumental music. Aromatherapy can be incorporated if your partner has a tough time relaxing. Also, mindful touching can be done by standing up or by laying down in a comfortable position.

Another way to end mindful touching is giving your partner a rose or their favorite flower. Hold the rose for five minutes and hug your partner. Touching your partner in silence can help you focus more on your partner. Mindful touching for couples can improve your relationship and make a couple feel closer. Here are more resources about mindful touching for couples. 

Nic Kolbe- Touch Meditation:

Touch Meditation Technique for Mindful Sensations (nic-kolbe.com)

Psychology Today-Finding Balance in Mindfulness:

Finding Balance in Mindfulness: The Technique of "Touch & Go" | Psychology Today

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