Commitment is challenging
for someone who has gamophobia. If a person has untreated gamophobia, he or she
stays in a relationship without having a commitment. Often a person who is not
aware of having gamophobia gets nervous, scared, and anxious. He or she changes
the subject when the word commitment is in the conversations. Other times a
person might want to be in a friend plus relationship or in a relationship that
does not require commitment.
For a person to be in a
committed relationship, the person must let go of their fears of marriage. If a
person had a trauma, an unpleasant experience during childhood, or saw their parents
divorce, might make him or her re-think about being in a committed relationship.
He or she might still want to be in a relationship to fulfill their physical
and emotional needs. Yet might not get an attachment to the other person. If
the person does get an emotional attachment with their partner, he or she might
still back out of being in a meaningful relationship.
Before being in a
committed relationship, a person with untreated gamophobia also must think
positively about being in the relationship with their partner. He or she needs
to eliminate the words, failure, mistakes, wrong, and other negative words that
come to mind. Additionally, he or she must be willing to be open to the thought
of being in a committed relationship with their current girlfriend or
boyfriend. Furthermore, he or she must let go of negative childhood experiences
from their parents who went through a divorce. The key is letting go of the fears.
Simply knowing that
their parents went through a divorce, he or she might believe that their committed
relationship might end in a divorce. Sadly, statistics show that seventy
percent of most married couples with divorced parents do get divorced within
months or less than a year. However, every thirty-six seconds a married couple
ends up divorced no matter if their parents stayed married. Therefore, with the
help of a counselor, a person with untreated gamophobia can overcome their fear
gradually with their current boyfriend or girlfriend. As the therapy sessions
progress, he, or she with gamophobia might want to live with their boyfriend or
girlfriend or might want to take the step of getting married.
When the person is
ready to be in a committed relationship, he or she might ask themselves
questions about why they want to be with their boyfriend or girlfriend. If he
or she answers the questions honestly, the fear might gradually disappear
overtime. However, if being in the relationship is out of convenience,
deception, or just to fulfill certain needs, the fear of marriage will be
stronger. Moreover, a person with or untreated gamophobia must be willing to
change and let go of the fear of marriage. Here are resources about commitment
and gamophobia.
9 Questions to Ask Before Committing to a Relationship:
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/9-questions-to-ask-before-committing-to-a-relationship_b_5924554
Commitment in Relationships:
https://exploringyourmind.com/commitment-relationships/
What is Gamophobia?
https://www.e-counseling.com/phobias/what-is-gamophobia/
Fear of Marriage:
https://www.marriage.com/advice/mental-health/fear-of-marriage/
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