Relationships: Mindful Hugging, Holding Hands, and Meditation

 

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Hugging can be an essential part of having a relationship. However, there are hugs that might feel uncomfortable and might not be welcomed by others. Sometimes during a relationship, a hug can seem too much for your partner or your partner might feel that they do not deserve it. Mindful hugging can help improve your relationship with your partner. As well as helping your partner understand why you might need a hug in the present moment. 

Often hugs can be misinterpreted. It can help you communicate better with your partner because your partner might not want to be hugged. Other times your partner might want to be hugged more for no reason. Other times a hug can make your partner feel pressured to be intimate in the relationship. Nonetheless, practicing mindful hugging can be helpful. 

Begin by hugging naturally and by surprising your partner with a hug. Your partner might be in a bad mood, in pain, or feel nervous about hugging. It is necessary to observe how your partner feels. Be aware of your partner's boundaries and the moment to hugging them. If they had a traumatic experience in hugging, you might want to begin by holding hands. 

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Begin by holding hands if your partner has a difficult time hugging. Also, your partner might feel uncomfortable hugging especially if they had a bad dating experience. Holding hands can be the first step before hugging your partner. Slowly touch your partner's hand. Make sure you feel calm before holding hands with your partner. 

Another tip is if you have nervous ticks on your hands, let your partner know about it. Your partner will understand about your nervous ticks. Holding hands might take time for your partner to feel comfortable. Additionally, your partner might feel embarrassed if they have sweaty hands. Other times they might feel uncomfortable if they have cold hands. 

No matter what the reasons for not holding hands, it can be challenging to practice mindful touch with your partner. Holding hands can lead to hugging and mindful touch. Let your partner know that you accept them. It is natural to be sweaty, nervous, or to become aware of how your partner holds your hand. Try grabbing your partner's hand slowly and be aware of each other's eye contact. 

Eye contact is also necessary for hugging. Observe your partner's facial expressions before hugging or holding hands. Surprise your partner with a hug. To practice mindful hugging, do not make the hug quickly. Practice hugging your partner while using your senses. 

Smile and hug your partner. Smell their perfume, body splash, or cologne. Listen to your partner if they are talking to you as you are hugging. If they are nervous or have a nervous laughter as they hug, you might want to touch their back with a gentle touch. Be gentle with your hugging and gradually making the hugging tighter. 

You can also practice hugging or holding hands by listening to a guided meditation. Hugging meditation can be practiced with your partner or by yourself. You can do a butterfly hug by yourself by crossing your arms. Make sure your hands form the shape of butterfly wings. Hug yourself and smile by thinking about a butterfly in flight.

Another meditation is to do bear hugging with your partner. However if your partner is not ready to hug, you can try a side hug. Side hugging might not feel closer to your partner. But give time to your partner so they can feel comfortable with hugging and holding hands. Over time hugging, holding hands, and mindful touching will be done naturally without reminding your partner. 

Add wall art of animals hugging and family hugging pictures. Create an area of items that remind you to hugging your partner. Take your time in getting to know your partner. Be aware of when your partner is feeling calm and safe. Safety is an important element when it comes to hugging mindfully and with mindful touch. 

Before hugging tighter, ensure that your partner feels safe and not restricted. Also, do not stress out your partner with too many hugs. Seek professional help with a therapist if they have difficulties in mindful touch, mindful hugging, or loving mutual touch. Visual meditation might be helpful before holding hands or hugging your partner. Play romantic music before practicing mindful hugging or holding hands mindfully. 

Mindful hugging can be practiced daily with your partner. However, if they had traumatic experiences, you might want to hug once or twice a week. Communication is necessary when it comes to mindful hugging, holding hands mindfully, and mindful touch. Above all do not pressure your partner to holding hands, hugging, or touching without their consent. Here are websites about hugging meditation and hugging mindfully.

Thich Nhat Han's Hugging Meditation-Lion's Roar:

Thich Nhat Hanh’s Hugging Meditation | Lion’s Roar

Mindful Hugging Practice-Awaken Wellness Resources:

MINDFUL HUGGING PRACTICE | Awaken Wellness Resources

Hugging Meditation-The Mindfulness Bell:

Hugging Meditation – The Mindfulness Bell

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