Assumptions, Relationships, and Mindfulness Communication
Verbal assumptions in relationships can occur occasionally. Yet, it can make your partner feel uncomfortable depending on the situation. Misunderstandings, resentment, anger, and feeling disconnected from your partner are often damaging to the relationship. Although verbal assumptions might make it easier to interpret your partner’s thoughts; However, it can make it tough to have open communication and clarification of how your partner feels. Verbal assumptions are one type of assumption that is challenging in a relationship.
The second assumption is expecting your partner to repeat their behavior and actions because of past experiences in the relationship. Additionally, unrealistic expectations can make your partner want to be distant and disappointed. Also, you might feel you know everything about your partner without asking. This can cause arguments and can make you unaware of your partner’s feelings and their perspectives. However, practicing mindfulness can make you more aware of your communication style with your partner.
It can make you feel more positive in your relationship and find ways to balance the bad days in the relationship. Focus on your breathing to help you stay calm. Practice mindfulness breathing with your partner. Sit behind your partner and practice box breathing with a meditation application. Hold hands as you sit back-to-back. Think about three things you are grateful for in your relationship and about your romantic partner.
Sit for five minutes. Make sure both of you are comfortable sitting back-to-back and holding hands. After that we sit in front of each other. Hold one hand and continue practicing breathing with one nostril. Alternate holding one hand and with one nostril breathing.
Make eye contact with your romantic partner. Listen to your partner and practice a breathing technique to feel calm. Another way to practice mindfulness for improving your communication with your partner is by sitting back-to-back with a journal. Have two journals and write your feelings. In one journal write your worries or anything that needs clarification.
Then in the second journal write about your gratitude towards your partner. Write about how you met your romantic partner. As well as writing how, you felt for the first time in meeting your partner. Although you might have bad days in your relationship, arguments, or things that bother you; It is necessary to write them down for managing your stress. Write one worry, one negative emotion, and one main issue of your arguments.
Listen to your romantic partner without asking yourself questions or without assuming what your partner might say. Practicing mindfulness for communication might help you identify your partner’s communication style. If your partner does too much criticism and is defensive, it is best to listen to them without interruptions. Seek professional help to understand your partner’s criticism and defensiveness. Furthermore, if your partner continues disregarding your feelings; Professional counseling for couples can help your partner to understand you and find solutions to unresolved issues.
Practice mindfulness communication to improve your communication styles, to feel connected, and to validate each other's feelings. In addition, practicing mindfulness with touch such as sitting together and touching your partner’s chest to feel their heart beats. This can also be done by laying down and listening to your partner’s heart beats in silence. Use your senses and be respectful towards your partner. Listen carefully and feel grateful for spending time together.
Say to yourself, " I am ready to listen to my partner without jumping into conclusions." Set an intention to listen, to be heard, and to be respected. End your conversations with an optimistic comment. Make more romantic notes for your partner. Last, share one romantic note with your partner before going to sleep.
In the morning, make another romantic note before your partner gets ready to go to work. Sit face to face while holding hands and write down I Love You on a piece of paper. Pass the piece of paper to your partner. Show your affection to your partner before going to work. Mindfulness can help you and your partner communicate better.
Also, it might help you make fewer verbal assumptions. Assuming too much without asking questions can make you feel more tension in your relationship. Focus on finding solutions and with less arguments with your romantic partner. Mindfulness communication can help you relax and understand each other. Here are websites about mindfulness and communication.
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