How to Overcome Embarrassment When Dating?
Embarrassment
is often difficult to understand and to manage one’s feelings. Avoiding,
ignoring, and forming negative impressions because of embarrassment can make oneself-isolated.
Due to actions and one’s appearance can make one be more self-conscious of what
others might think about you or your dating partner. Negative impressions are
sometimes dismissed especially if you like the person that you are dating. However,
feeling embarrassed by your dating partner can make you self-conscious of their
appearance or behavioral actions when socializing with friends and
family.
Overcoming
embarrassment and going beyond your partner's appearances is possible. As well
as changing your perception and not practicing social judgment. When one has
social judgment, one is often self-conscious about comments, jokes, and might
seek approval from others. Nonetheless, comparisons, rejection, and exclusion
can occur because of agreeing with what friends and family say about your
dating partner. Ending comparisons, rejection, and exclusion from friends and
family can improve your relationship with your dating partner.
Rejection always
damages any type of relationship. Begin by self-evaluating what makes you feel
embarrassed when you are dating your partner. If you have social anxiety, a
past traumatic experience, or felt excessive humiliation by someone in the
past; It is recommended to seek professional therapy to help manage those
emotions and the feeling of embarrassment. Also, analyze what is inappropriate
behavioral actions and one’s dating boundaries. Ask yourself the following
questions.
- Are you embarrassed when you are outside with your partner and in front of your friends and family?
- Are you embarrassed when your partner kisses you in public?
- Are you embarrassed of your partner's clothing when you are together?
- Are you embarrassed by compliments your partner tells you and in front of others?
- Are you self-conscious about your partner being the center of attention or the focus towards the entire family gathering or friend gathering?
- Are you embarrassed about your date eating or drinking table manners?
- Are you embarrassed by your date's hairstyle and clothing appearance?
- Are you embarrassed by how your partner shows affection?
- Are you embarrassed by how your partner stares at you in front of others?
- Are you embarrassed by everything your date does?
Remember
that everyone makes mistakes, accidentally falls, accidentally spills food, or
drinks, or forgets details. As well saying the wrong thing in the wrong moment
during the date. Furthermore, over complimenting, excessive smiling, or
excessive talking during a date might be embarrassing. But it is necessary to
understand your partner and find ways to help them feel relaxed. Yet, these
factors must not deteriorate your relationship with your dating partner.
Often things are
done because of nervousness and the enthusiasm for dating. Other times being
too aware of your partner's appearance and being self-conscious can cause
friction in the relationship. Additionally, having a lack of communication, a
lack of compassion, and not getting to know your date can make you misinterpret
your relationship. Overcoming embarrassment takes time and one must understand,
connect, and self-reflect. Laughing off the embarrassment is a temporary action
that is usually done to avoid further damage from that experience.
Embarrassment can
occur anytime throughout the relationship. Depending on the type of
embarrassment or the embarrassing situation, it is possible to manage those
feelings with communication. Be honest with your partner and ask them why they
are embarrassed. It can be difficult, but it is necessary to have this
conversation before the embarrassment prevents your partner from spending time
with you. No matter what the embarrassment is about, remain calm and listen
carefully as your partner explains.
Sometimes being
embarrassed can be an experience that has not been healed or forgotten. It is
necessary to understand and show support to your partner. Accompany them to
their therapy sessions for support and to help with their healing process.
Additionally, being self-conscious about one’s body due to body shaming can be
another reason for feeling embarrassed with one’s body. Do not force or
pressure your partner to speak about a traumatic experience during the
beginning stages of dating.
Lastly,
embarrassment in a relationship begins by being honest with yourself and with
your partner. Accept that you feel embarrassed and practice self-acceptance.
Some embarrassing moments occur due to feeling distracted, feeling angry, or not
knowing how to respond. Additionally, embarrassing situations make you feel
uncomfortable and can make your partner sense your discomfort or sense your
self-conscious actions. It is important to practice relaxation techniques such
as mindfulness, meditation, breathing techniques, or doing a relaxing activity
before responding to your partner feeling embarrassed.
During
a date, it is best to practice self-recognition and to demonstrate the unique
person you are to your dating partner. Self-love, self-awareness, and
self-acceptance can be implemented before dating and throughout the dating
process. Meditate and understand yourself by accepting your mistakes and the reasons
why it was embarrassing to you. Focus on moving on and use positive
affirmations to help you stop regretting or reliving the embarrassment.
Practice self-forgiveness, self-kindness, and self-compassion.
After
you have answered the questions about what makes you feel embarrassed. Apologize
to your partner. If the relationship is abusive and hurts you emotionally, end
the relationship that makes you feel embarrassed. If you are in a relationship
that makes you self-isolate, feel self-hatred, and self-neglect yourself; It is
encouraged to walk away and leave the abusive relationship. Here are resources
about overcoming embarrassment.
Embarrassment-Science of People:
How to Get Over Embarrassment (And Use it to Our Benefit!)
Get Over Embarrassment-Small Bits of Happiness:
How To Get Over Embarrassment - Small Bits of Happiness
10 Quick Ways to Overcome Embarrassment:
10 Quick Ways to Overcome Embarrassment
Domestic Violence Support-National Domestic Violence Hotline:
Domestic Violence Support | National Domestic Violence Hotline
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