Rejections & Mindfulness
Being
rejected is a terrible experience for anyone who is looking for a job and for a
relationship. It might seem like a difficult quest to manage those feelings of
rejection. It might feel like a challenge and inspire you to do
self-improvement. Yet, rejection can also make you seek self-validation and
self-acceptance. As well as making it difficult to control your reactions and
avoiding events where you know that the person that rejected you will be
present at those events.
Responding to rejection can
be complex because you do not want to hurt others because of social
expectations. Nonetheless, rejection might lower your self-esteem, self-worth,
and self-confidence. You might feel frustration, anger, disappointment, or embarrassment
for not getting that job or for seeking a relationship with someone. Depending
on how the rejection is done, you might feel defensive and might want to
isolate yourself from someone. However, distancing yourself and avoiding
interacting with them can be more painful especially if you have friends in
common.
No matter what the reasons
are, rejection is painful during a break-up or before being intimate with your
partner, or before going on a date with someone. It is necessary to understand
and to have open communication with your partner. You or your partner might
feel too much pressure, confusion, or might be unsure about their feelings.
Nevertheless, practice compassion and separate your self-worth with boundaries.
Believe in yourself and analyze the situation without assuming it is all your
fault or their fault.
Also, practice self-love and
do not feel guilty in taking care of your emotions. Do not change your
appearance, your lifestyle, or your clothing because of your partner's
rejection or because of a bad job interview. However, be honest and have a
comfortable area to speak about your feelings of being rejected. Make sure the
area is quiet and do not argue. Instead ask for feedback from your partner or
the job interviewer about the reasons for self-refection.
Accept the feedback. Look
for alternative solutions and job opportunities for looking for a job. This can
also apply to your relationships because often alternative solutions can make
your relationship stronger after being rejected from your married partner. Feel
motivated and connect emotionally with your partner while managing your
feelings of your partner’s rejection. Practice mindfulness together.
Rejection is a painful
reminder each time you seek a new job or for a new relationship. However,
mindfulness can help you cope with rejection in addition to doing activities
for self-improvement. Also, seeking professional therapy is helpful for
understanding your self-worth and for understanding the experiences of
rejection. Begin by processing the emotions of feeling rejected. Release those
emotions by writing, deep breathing, painting, drawing, or singing an
inspirational song.
Be aware of your body
sensations and facial expressions. Notice if you are biting your nails, biting
your lips, or licking your lips because of anger, nervousness, or frustration.
Replace that habit by doing knotting techniques with yarn such as crocheting,
macrame, or weaving. Doing something creative can help you feel serene. If you
have negative thoughts, continue making knots with the yarn and practice deep
breathing.
Another way is to look at
your surroundings. Feel the sun's rays on your skin and hair. See the birds
fly, see the flowers, see the ocean, or other items that you see in your city,
town, or beach. Listen to guided meditations as you do deep breathing. Feel the
cold icy water from your cup and drink your water slowly.
Observe how quickly or
slowly you walk. If you walk too quickly while thinking about the
disappointments or anger; Slow down and carefully observe what you see outside.
As well as running, skipping, or jogging slowly to help you focus and observe
your posture. Make sure you take the time to rest and to release those
emotions. Remind yourself to be gentle with yourself and say kind thoughts to
yourself.
Additionally, practicing
embroidery can help you think less about your frustration, anger, and
disappointments. Getting over a rejection can be short or lengthy depending on
the situation and the intensity of the emotions. Yet, mindfulness can be done
in short segments before a job interview or before a first date. Think
optimistic, be present, and avoid the feelings of rejection slowly as you
practice self-care, self-kindness, self-acceptance. It might take two weeks or
three months to feel better and to recover from rejection.
Remember that everyone has
experienced rejection. Speak to someone that you trust. Managing the feeling of
rejection with hobbies, learning something new, or finding inspirational items
to read can be helpful. Do not deny the bothersome emotions but understand the
reasons of those emotions. Speak to a professional therapist about your
emotions and your experiences of rejection. Here are resources for managing
rejection with mindfulness.
Why Men Struggle with Rejection and What it Really Means-Mentalzon:
Why Men Struggle with Rejection and What It Really Means | Mentalzon
How to Deal with Rejection the Right Way:
How to Deal With Rejection the Right Way
How to Get Over Rejection-Mindfulness Exercises:
How To Get Over Rejection - Mindfulness Exercises
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